Grounded Guide to Boundaries
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About the Event
We've all had that person who we knew overstepped the mark with us, perhaps it was the boss that asked too much of you, or the partner who said something hurtful, or the person who overshares their emotions and always seems to make it all about them.
We know we want to set boundaries, we know we want to take responsibility for our own emotional reactivity, but learning where to draw the line is hard.
I see people share all the time misconceptions about boundaries.
If someone responds poorly to a boundary you set it's an indication the boundary was needed.
If someone won't respect your boundaries - the only option is to cut them out of your life.
If you cant set boundaries it's because you don't value yourself enough.
NONE of these are true, or helpful, most of the time.
If someone responds poorly to a boundary you set, it could mean many things. They may not be great with feedback, you may have communicated in a way that crossed their boundaries, you may be expecting more from them than they are capable of giving, you may be at a different level of relationship then they are, and so many other options.
When we say "If someone wont respect your boundaries" we imply that boundaries are set by one person and followed by another. This is not the case. Boundaries are something that need to be explored together. We need to bring a level of perspective wisdom when we set boundaries.
And that last one, our ability to set boundaries is not linked to our self-worth. Our ability to set boundaries requires us to be able to objective, look from a number of angles, understand the dynamics of relationships, and our level of emotional resilience, which has nothing to do with how much we value ourselves. It's possible to have high self-worth and still not be able to set healthy boundaries because it is more than simply a state of being, and a mindset, setting healthy boundaries is a skill.
Healthy boundaries take into consideration 3 factors:
2. Relationship Dynamics
3. Emotional Resilience
These three elements will be unpacked thoroughly in the Create a Life You Love Group Mentoring Session on May 24th.
If you can't make it live you will be able to access a replay via a recording. You can send me any specific questions before the session and I will make sure to cover them in the call.